Mom’s Away the Dad has fun
What a fun day we had yesterday. Our day started with a late morning breakfast; at least eating breakfast at 10am is late for me, and then strolling along Lake Michigan at the Indiana Sand Dunes for a few hours. What a beautiful area. We finished our day by meeting 758 other people crazy about Science Olympiad at the Science Olympiad Clinic.
Pat and the boys had a fun day too back in Delaware. They headed over to Hershey, PA and visited the Antique Car Show going on there. It is so wonderful that I can just take off and know that the boys are in great hands. Shouldn’t that be the way it should be? Why shouldn’t the Dad be able to take care of the children; be trusted with the children? Too often I hear homeschool moms remark that they can’t leave for an overnight conference because their husband can’t handle or care for the children alone. WHAT!!!
Ladies; what if something happens to you or you need to be away to care for a parent? Perhaps ‘they’ haven’t demonstrated their ability to care for the children because you have always been there, doing what needs to done. Give your husband a chance; let him care for the children his way which will surely be different than your way, but they will still be well cared for. Will they miss you? Sure. But my boys have learned through my being away that not only does Dad do things differently than mom but that he IS a really good cook. There are some things Pat does that the boys enjoy and some they do not. Being left to make sure the house is back in the order I left the home is left up to the boys, and they really do not like this aspect of me being away. 
It is so comforting knowing that while I am off at a Science Olympiad conference they are having fun with their Dad .
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October 8th, 2006 @ 12:17 pm
I totally agree! *I* was the one who had to let go and let my hubby be with the children the way that works for him. That means it was different, but as you said, the children often love the different he brings. Each of us, mom and dad, brings something wonderful to the table that the children should be able to enjoy. We also both bring something less desirable. It makes us human, and it helps each and every one of us get to learn how to live with one another through working things out because the good outweighs the bad.
I’m thankful for my wonderfully involved hubby that I totally trust with the children, even though the differences can drive me bonkers
So, I try to close my eyes to that and open them to the smiles on our children’s faces and the wonderful relationship we all enjoy individually and collectively.
-Cindy
October 28th, 2006 @ 11:07 am
Great post, so true!
I’ve really enjoyed visiting your blog too, nice to *meet* you.
October 30th, 2006 @ 7:08 pm
I recently had a difficult and brisk decision to make: whether or not to travel out of the country for the funeral of my dear grandfather, who lived to be 98++ years old (he passed only 2 weeks before his 99th birthday). Although I would love to take my entire family to Norway for a “field trip”, under these circumstances it was not possible, financially or otherwise. So I prayed, booked my flight, and packed, leaving the children with their already overworked daddy on SEPTEMBER 22! It was difficult to go, however, two remarkable things happened: one, my kids and husband found new ways to achieve an end, even if that meant a healthy dose of unschooling; and two, Daddy was able to better know the amazing hearts and minds of his children, and receive the gifts they give me every day!!! Allowing myself the closure was a gift too, and I was blessed to have been able to sing at my Bestefar’s service. It truly was a once in a lifetime opportunity I am glad to have had.